By the Bucket

What an interesting season of life I’m finding myself in. There I was, in familiar territory for so long, and suddenly, the landscape changes.

And I look down at myself, walking this new place, and I see that I am changed as well. My hands are older, I see the lines and veins that mark them. But they’ve never been stronger. My stride is more careful, but how much ground a step covers now! My eyes, are they dimmer? But they are sharper! Things I never noticed before are so clear to me now.

And my words. Friends, they are a whisper, but they are deeper and wider in my soul than they’ve ever been before. There is a well of words in me and I’m hauling them up by the bucket. I’ll pour these quiet words out on this new ground and see what springs up.

Life never ceases to surprise me. GOD never ceases to surprise me. He brings us into new places, new versions of ourselves, just when we least expect it. No matter how many times He’s done it before, I am always amazed at how He shifts the ground beneath my feet. He gave me a new space within and without to live in for a while. And when it’s done, He’ll give me another, and another, until the journey is done and the last bucket comes up.

This new place has already taught me its first lesson. Time is just the Path, and we make it beautiful and green by what we pour out along the way. So pour while you can, make the way abundant and alive. Because the changes you leave in your wake are far more important than the changes to a mortal body just traveling through.

Whatever is in your bucket, pour it out. Let something amazing spring up, and watch your landscape change.

Write

It’s a little box at the top of my defunct blog. It says WRITE and there’s a little plus sign beside it. Waiting.

It’s very direct.

WRITE.


You know what I’ve been doing for the last hour? Going through the old drafts that I never published on this blog. The real stuff. The things that were too raw, too high or too low to share. These posts are like the road signs that led to the end of this blog. But bigger than that- so much bigger than just the demise of a silly blog. It was the end of allowing myself to say what was important, what mattered. Each unpublished word was a step closer to a self imposed silence that has just… diminished me.

I’ve been struggling for a while now. I’ve been feeling lost. Like the lines around me are so finely drawn that I couldn’t see myself anymore. What a mess to confess. I need to have everything firmly in place, and to admit that I don’t feels like a poor reflection on everything and everybody that matters. Pride, shame, guilt, SIN – they’ve blurred my edges. Though I’ve had every reason to be happy, to be fulfilled and satisfied, I’ve just been lost.

I think God brought me through this last year to face some hard truths about myself and how I’ve got to stop looking for other people to make me happy, to validate me. All those things are temporary, and they fade away. They are earthly. They fail. I’ve been trying so hard to earn what can’t be bought, or to find it in places it can’t be found.

Why say all this? Because I can’t be the only one. I can’t be the only woman who has been marching through this Parade of Days, burying the struggle beneath the millions of things to do while the sun is shining. As I’ve been trying to find my way through this, I’ve been looking for women on the other side of it. Some sign that it’s passable, that it’s normal, that I’ll be okay. And I just couldn’t find the blog posts, y’all. I couldn’t find her. I don’t think it’s because I invented this particular season of life. I just think we don’t talk about it because we’re so ashamed of it. I know I am.

Anyway, this is for the future woman, this is for my sisters and my friends and my daughter and anybody else that needs to hear it when they get to this part of the road. Yes, it’s hard. You thought the hard parts were all behind you, and this one may have caught you off guard. You may stumble, when you thought you’d fly. You could lose your way, and be scared and lonely and angry. You may not recognize where you are, or WHO you are.

But He won’t leave you there. He’ll come and find you, little lamb. He’ll take you to a place you know, and He’ll show you who you are again. He never fails to find us when we’re lost.

So tonight, I won’t put this in the DRAFT pile. I’ll publish the hard things. For you, and for me. And I’ll come back, and I’ll hit the write button again, and again, and again. Because there are so many things to say, lines to draw around myself again, truths that may be raw but real, and it’s time. It’s time to WRITE.

 

 

Not Forgotten

I stayed behind for a moment, gathering my purse and books from the car. The kids all ran ahead, because we were *almost* late for co-op (again.)  I stepped into the lobby of the building, and there you were with a sheepish grin on your face “I can stand to be a little late to my class, but I just can’t stand not saying goodbye to you!!” You gave me a quick, fierce hug, and ran off to your first grade class.

And I was just overcome with the blessing of being your mom.

Things have been tough lately. We have had some setbacks and disappointments that you know nothing about. We’ve been stressed and discouraged, and I’m doing my best to keep y’all from seeing it. I’ll be honest, I’ve been feeling a little forgotten by God.  Like my prayers are bouncing around the room, not getting enough airspeed to break this atmosphere.  And as I trudged into this day, with the weight of these troubles bearing down on me, you reminded me that I hit the MOM JACKPOT.

You just love me.  I mean, you LOVE ME.  Unconditionally, constantly, visibly, sweetly, genuinely, you love me. And that love swept me higher today, gave me a gust of wind under my wings at a time when gravity had been pulling hard.

God hasn’t forgotten me. Silly me. He gave me YOU, and there’s so much heaven in that gift that you just lift me right up.

 

Soaking Up the Rain

Today, you took the hymnal from the pew and looked up the next song, and placed a marker in it so we would be ready when the music started. Then you reached for the hymnal beside your dad, and did the same for him. After replacing the hymnal, you patted his arm lovingly.

And my eyes filled up with tears. Because there’s no way I can remember all these moments. No way to hang on to every kind gesture of your young heart, every funny thing you say, all the times when you are so uniquely you!  I can’t memorize the smallness of your hands, (they keep changing) or the silly dance moves, or the zillion hilarious lego creations you share with me.

But don’t you think for one minute that I’m not trying. I’m soaking up these days like rain in the desert. My mind is constantly documenting and cataloging; I’m your “mamarazzi” but subtle and quiet-like.  I can never capture the true spirit of the moment in my memory though. And that’s what made me cry today. I’m gonna miss this. I’m gonna miss this so bad.

So if when you do a sweet thing, you notice tears in my eye, that’s why. Because I never want to forget who you are today. Because I’m trying so hard to hold onto the experience, and I know the memory can’t hold a candle to the real thing. Because I’m your mama, and you’re my boy, but one day you’ll be so much more than that. Because your hands won’t stay little and one day, your daddy and I will have to look up our own music.

But I blink back the tears, take another mental picture, and enjoy the real life moment of Now.  We sing together, your hand on one side of the book, and mine on the other, and I know every minute is a gift from God.

 

 

Harvest

There are words nearly ripe for the harvest. They are beginning to hang heavy on the tree of my soul, ready to be plucked down and savored. We have labored at life so fully this year, with mostly sunshine and busyness, though there were days of rain and stillness as well. But every kind of moment is necessary to the nourishment of Things to Say, and I cannot begrudge the rainy season it’s moment.

I am eager, eyeing this bounty to come. It’s been a long season of quiet, and it’s nearly to feast.

 

A Letter From Home

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I mailed this letter to my brother today. I wonder if the mailman will notice the verses. Or the prison official who will read the letter, checking for violations. Or my brother’s cellmates. I hope they all will.

I used colored pens because I don’t know how many vivid colors he gets to see in a day. I wrote in colors because God’s word should be written in a rainbow, because it’s full of promise and hope. I wrote in colors because black ink is too institutional, and he has enough of that for now.

I had hoped, after last time, that the only things I would mail him again would be Christmas cards and birthday packages, but this is where we are. There is a number after his name again. Letters are now the lifeline to the outside world. They replace hugs and Fourth of July picnics, and beach trips. They remind him that we haven’t forgotten him, but they also remind him that life can’t wait for him and it just keeps going. I imagine he reads letters from home with a mixture of dread and longing, with gratitude and resentment, with hope and regret.
Maybe not yet, though. He hasn’t been there long. It can take a while to open your eyes, to heal from these self inflicted wounds, to shake off the haze of disasters you’ve created.  To feel things again… that’s a big part of the battle.

But, when that day comes, maybe these bright words of peace and forgiveness will shine. Maybe they’ll get him through the day. Maybe they’ll grow in him and fill up the empty places he’s tried to satisfy with the poor substitutions of this world. Because His Word can do anything. It made stars and heavens and life and time. It parted seas, raised the dead, closed the lion’s jaws. His Word creates all, conquers all, restores all, saves all, sustains all. There’s nothing it can’t do.

so…

I wait for the Lord, my whole being waits,
and IN HIS WORD I put my hope.
Ps. 130:5

 

After a Slight Pause

Goodness gracious. Time does get away from me!  I’m going to make a grab for it and put it in a neck hold for just a minute so we can catch up.  Ready?  And GO

Chickens?  Good.  Finally starting to pick  up with egg laying again, after seriously calling it in this winter.  Major slackers in the coop. Some of my girls are getting on up in the years, so their production is dropping off.  And cold, wet weather with short days do not make a plethora of eggs.  However, I do have about 10 or 12 young hens who are not far from joining the rotation.  They’re all wild as can be, too, because I haven’t spent much time with them.  Like, they have returned to the feral ways of their Jungle Fowl ancestors.  It’s tribal in there.  CRAY-CRAY.  But, as long as they lay, they stay.  Actually, that sounds like a motivational sign I need to paint for the coop.  You Lay, You Stay.  Ha.

After losing my sweet Annabel to a possum (don’t even, I still can’t), we decided to get a Livestock Guardian Dog (LGD).  Actually, he’s half Great Pyrenees, so we got half of an LGD.  🙂  But so far, so good.  His name is Pete and he is a giant goofy baby and we love him.  I’ll have to put some pictures up.  He barks at everything that has ever existed or will exist, so we haven’t seen any possums in months.  RIP, Annabel.

King Pen has taken over many of the chicken duties for me like a CHAMP.  I’ve been pretty wrapped up in some other projects, which is why you aren’t seeing pictures of chickens flooding your FB and Instagram feeds from me.  I’ll be glad when things settle down and I can hang out in the coop more.  There’s drama going on that I just KNOW I am missing.  And there ain’t no drama like chicken drama, I kid you not.

As for other projects, the kids are involved in a production of Mary Poppins and that means my world is revolving around rehearsals and I CAN’T STOP SINGING SPOONFUL OF SUGAR.  For months, guys.  And we speak in proper upper class British accents now, all the time, because once ‘you staht, you con’t stop, deah.’  But it’s fun.  Kids are working hard and I’m burning up the roads and it’ll all be awesome and fun and wonderful and you just keep saying that over and over and over for three months.  Ha.

We’re also doing another, smaller show, and this one I’m actually in.  (I know, I’m ridiculous).  But it’s singing!!  And speaking!!  And dancing!! And with my daughter!!  So, add another night (or two) of rehearsals to the week.

And now I’m embarrassed, because there’s a teeny tiny bit more that I’m doing.  One night a week, I’m taking a beginner’s American sign language class.  I’ve been learning on my own for a while, but really needed an instructor and classroom setting.  It’s about the coolest thing I’VE EVER DONE.  I show up every Tuesday  on the front row with my pencil super sharp and my book highlighted and I do a few stretches before class to warm up. (I wish I was kidding.  But I’m not.  I am that much the nerd.)

So, that’s what’s up with me.  My dance ticket is full, full, full, but it’s all good.  Sorry I’ve been so absent!  I’ll try to sneak away periodically and update my blog, so don’t delete the bookmark just yet.  🙂

Happy Friday, y’all!

 

 

 

What I Know

Oh no, an hour slipped by me.  We inch closer to midnight, and the gears are just beginning to move.  I spent too much time in front of the white page, trying to make the cursor stop blinking.

What to write?  Oh, write what you know, they say so casually, as if it’s just that simple and obvious.  What do I know? How huge is this question?  Isn’t that what we are always trying to figure out?  What do I know of this life?   What have I gained here, what’s the reason for it all? Just write that.

Ha!  Write the Great Big Point of Everything.  The thing you have learned on this journey of domestic ordinariness that will stop the cursor from it’s winking state of readiness– and GO.

Okay.  Maybe they don’t mean, write all you know.  Maybe I’ll just write what I know today.

Today, I know that a picture of my brother smiling almost made me cry.  If I could make a moment stay by sheer force of will, this one wouldn’t move an inch.  How hard we’re holding on, now that we’ve got him.

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What else do I know today?

I know that I should wear my hair down more often.  I know that my five year old thinks I’m beautiful with my hair down, even if I’m in yoga pants and a boring shirt and don’t have makeup on.  I know that the prettiest kind of pretty you can be is when you are doing it for the enjoyment of those who love you.  That the prettiest pretty isn’t about being admired or lusted after or meeting the approval of the hungry, insatiable world.  Maybe that’s the kind of pretty you don’t begin to understand until there are laugh lines to underscore the word.  Until there are gray streaks to catch the light, or fuller curves to hug into.  Maybe it’s the only kind of pretty that sticks.

I know that I need to sit and talk more often with a true friend for a few hours in a bookstore, in REAL LIFE.  I need to recharge, to be genuine, to laugh and bare something of my soul to another human being.   I know this because when I spent my evening doing this very thing with a dear friend, my spirit was buoyant as it hasn’t been in a long time.  I’m working so hard on growing friendships in my life, and to be honest, sometimes I’m impatient.  I want the doors to be opened already, and the walls to come down.  But that takes time.  So, to enjoy the company of a seasoned friend– well that is a rest for the weary soul!  I will not wait so long again.

I know that I need to turn the radio off more often.  I need to stop placing barricades to keep my mind from wandering.  Maybe it’s society, the modern world, our growing unease of quiet and stillness.  Whatever it is, when I forgot to turn on the radio in the car today, my mind meandered all over the place, suddenly free from mind numbing restraints. Ideas raced about like newborn colts in my head.  I thought thoughts, all kinds of ’em.  Dusty corners of my brain were shocked into activity.  And this truly scared me.  Because I didn’t know I’d been downsizing up there.  And if I’m doing it, I’m betting you are, too.  Life is too loud, and we can’t hear ourselves think anymore.  So, that’s a thing I know today. I need to let it be quiet sometimes, so my thoughts have a chance to be heard.

The last thing I know today is that it’s my bedtime.  Well past it.  And I’ve learned all the things I can fit in for this day.  Tomorrow, maybe I’ll know more, and it’ll be worth writing about.

G’nite, all.

Letting Her Out a Bit

Hi blog.  You’re still up. I knew you would be.

I was just thinking tonight, what if I said all the words again?  All. the. words. What if I pretended it was the good old days, when I painted my life across these pages with the biggest brush I had? Wide, bold strokes and reckless abandon.  Carefree, if a bit careless at times. What would happen if I let the writer out a bit?

Dare I?

It’s after midnight.  It’s certainly hard to contain her when all the darlings are asleep, except the cat who meows in the windowsill for a late night snack.

Worth a try, he says.

Catch a mouse, I say.  (He is not as much a darling as some)

So, focus.

Writing.

Here’s the thing.  Life is fully more complicated than I ever imagined it to be.  Each word I say has a string tied to it and on the other end is a person.  I can’t just go around tugging strings and tangling up my people.  But, if I am careful, perhaps a little wiggle won’t hurt.

I went on a bicycle ride this afternoon.  With the oldest in charge, I left my phone on the counter.  Mostly, I couldn’t figure out how to carry it.  But a little inside part of me needed to be off the grid, needed to be the Person Who Wasn’t Answering Questions.

It was nice.  And scary, to be honest.  Who is answering the Questions if not me?  What if there is an urgent Question that needs answering and I am off gaily pedaling these country roads?  Might the world explode if I become a Person Who Isn’t Answering Questions?!  Will this mad experiment of a solo bike ride off the grid be the downfall of civilization as we know it?

It was not.

And so, I conclude that it must be okay to be that Person sometimes, who does not Answer Questions.  I suspect, it might be necessary to my sanity to occasionally be that Person.  I could let someone else have a turn Answering the Questions.  A short turn, anyway.

Next string.

I am learning ASL.  Each day I practice, I am more excited.  And then I hang around my deaf friends, and I am dismayed at how very little I know.  This keeps happening, and I am learning to laugh at myself.  I’ll probably never know enough to be much of a friend, but I will keep on baking muffins and inviting them over and signing ridiculously slow.  I keep signing wrong things that amuse them (and me), which makes me smile.  This is a happy string.

Onward.

My brother is home and he is doing well.  We make jokes sometimes now.   Every little positive communication is a very big deal.  To him, to me- to anyone who is coming out the other side of active addiction.  A little pat on the back, a shared laugh, a nice hug– they are like moments dipped in gold.  They are bright and so very valuable.  So we continue to pan for them, shaking the rocks and the soil out of the way, looking for that glint of something special.  The pile grows.  Perhaps we may be rich yet.

Another string.

My daughter is hoping for some pink highlights in her hair.  I was not told this question would be on the test.  (!) It’s nowhere on the syllabus, I’m quite sure of it.  I’ve looked front and back and I guess I’ll just have to wing it.  I’ll make an educated guess (Option C is always a good choice, they say), and hope for bonus questions in case I get this one wrong.  Pink. Hm.

Next.  (Maybe last- I’m finally getting sleepy and the cat quit asking for a midnight snack.)

I was reading the last chapter of Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire aloud to the kids today.  It was so hard not to cry, but I couldn’t, because if I cried, they wouldn’t experience the story itself, but rather, MY feelings.  So I resolved myself.  I would feel all the feels (see how current and trendy I am) on the inside, but I would not compromise the integrity of my story telling by showing it on the outside.  I swallowed back the lump in my throat, and blinked away the tears. I would not forget my sacred duty as a deliverer of words, especially those to be heard for the first time.  I dove in and read with all the fullness I possessed. I feel so many things, but I will not lose the story.   Because, at the heart of it, that’s what I want to do.  Give them the story, and let them feel and experience what they will, on their own.  It’s the best way.  It’s authentic.

I think this could be important in more ways than my scarecrow brain can put together right now.  So that’s how I know, it’s time to sleep.  It is one a.m. and the cat has abandoned his perch.  The writer is pacified and drowsy and slightly alarmed at the clock.  (see what I did there)

G’nite all.  Happy dreams from a blog not quite abandoned.  Not yet.

A Humble Home

To the Woman with a Humble Home:

This letter is for you if you do not have granite countertops.  If you have not shopped at Pottery Barn (and do not really look closely at the catalogues, because come on.)  If you have light switches that don’t work (and probably never will, honestly!)  If you don’t have a dishwasher, if you have window air units, if you have paint that chips, screens that are taped, forks that don’t match, and you have strategically placed rugs to cover stains and scratches.

If you’re like me, and your home is humble, and sometimes you feel bad about it.

Like, you’ve failed somehow.

Like, people will see the frayed edges, and think you haven’t tried enough.

Like, even though God’s blessed you and you are SO GRATEFUL, sometimes you wonder why He isn’t blessing you out of the 2015 Pottery Barn fall collection.

This is for you.

What if, what if… your home is absolutely perfect, right now, as it is?

What if, when someone walks into your home, they think of the house they grew up in?  They remember their mother, and the simple years of their childhood, and it brings them joy.  Joy, when they maybe needed it more than you knew?  Maybe when they had forgotten that joy isn’t found in the the pursuit of the American dream?

What if, when someone walks into your home, they see the flowers in the mason jar, and they think of how beautiful nature is, how happiness and enjoyment doesn’t have to be purchased or polished.  It can just be.

What if, when someone walks into your home, they see their place set at the table, and they feel a little less alone.  They feel connected, wanted, important?

What if, when someone walks into your home, they see the effort, the care you took in being hospitable, and they who are blessed with even more resources, are encouraged to do that same?

What if, when someone walks into your home, they see the imperfections, the flaws, all the things you have fretted over and tried to hide.  But then, they see you smiling, saying, welcome.  Dear Lord, what could that mean for them?  That THEY don’t have to be perfect?  That flaws are not what define us?  That we are all broken, but we are all welcomed by Jesus?

What if things are happening in His Kingdom and for it, that you have NO IDEA about, because your home is EXACTLY what it is?  How many times have we missed the opportunity for that because we wouldn’t offer to host a meeting or have someone to dinner, because we didn’t want anyone to see that we’re not living the same as others?

Oh dear hearts, I’ve been there.  I’m sorry to say it- it’s shameful.  I almost didn’t want to write this post.  But I’m hoping that sharing this with you might encourage you to see your own home in a different light.

This secondhand furniture is exactly what God chose for you, because He had a purpose for it.  It’s not an accident.  If there’s one thing we should know about Him by now, it’s that NOTHING is ever an accident with Him.  Your home has been carefully crafted by the Lord, each rickety table and mismatched pillow, all to draw others to Him. He poured over the furnishings, choosing this and that, and saying, yes, this one is just right.  This couch with its worn spot, and that chair with its scratched wood, and those curtains that are just a little too long.  This place is just right.  This place is glorified and will bring light into the world.

What if your home is beautiful in His eyes?

Because, friend, it is.

It is lovely, and good, and useful, and has been constructed to fit your heart and hand so that you can use it for Him.  Look around and delight in it.  Rest in it.  Look with kind eyes on these walls, whose tasks go beyond what we can see in this world.  Open your door wide, don’t be ashamed.  Stop apologizing. That’s what our enemy would have, that we would close off our corner of the world.  That we would believe it is not enough, that we are not enough, that HE is not enough.  Lies.  Because what our enemy knows is that, there is nothing more powerful than a home that loves the Lord, and whose door is open.

Stand at your threshold and rejoice, woman of the humble home.

For you are a daughter of the King, and your home is His dwelling place.

When your heart can’t hold it in anymore.

The facts.

I’ve seen my brother once in the last two years, at my sister’s wedding.  As we stood for photographs in the sunshine and the flowers and the heartbreak, I wondered if that would be the last one of us all together.

He wrote me a letter from a rehab a few days ago, and before I had a chance to even write him back, he had left.

I lay in bed some nights, imagining what it is that will kill him, and what it will do to us.

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The feelings.

I pity him.

I’m angry at him.

I’m scared for him.

I miss him.

repeat, repeat, repeat, repeat

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The fears.

He’ll die in a hospital bed, after a lifetime of regrets, like my uncle David.

The image of my parents with silver hair, and gently bent backs, and wrinkled faces, and not a worldly possession left to care for themselves.

That we haven’t seen the darkest days yet.

That saying it aloud hurts him and hurts my family.

That saying it aloud doesn’t make any difference at all.

—-

God help him. Help us.

The Way of A Man with a Maid

“There are three things which are too wonderful for me, Four which I do not understand: The way of an eagle in the sky, The way of a serpent on a rock, The way of a ship in the middle of the sea, And the way of a man with a maid.” Proverbs 30:19

Eighteen years I have learned the wonders of the ways between a man and a maid.  I have seen love stretched and tested and enduring. I have seen it soaring and flying, I’ve seen it hanging on and surviving.  I’ve seen it come easily and quickly, and other times fought for, bought with heart aches and forgiveness and reconciliation.  I’ve seen it shine like a brand new penny, I’ve seen it flickering bravely in dark places.  I’ve seen it change, over and over.  The endless seasons of love coming and going and transforming us, year after year after year.   It becomes fuller and more bodied as it ages.  It becomes something so difficult to describe that we stop trying.  It becomes so intimate and personal, that you don’t often see movies or novels written about the 18th year of being in love.  But this is a loss to us, as we love past our honeymoons and newlywed days.  Let the world hear, love is rich and amazing and reborn in us a thousand times over our lives. Let this little verse rival the lines of Romeo and Juliet.  Let me challenge Paris and Helen.  What can be known of love can’t be gathered in such brief moments as theirs.  Though truly, even a life time wouldn’t be long enough to know all the wonders of love.

Summer in my heart

Though winter rages ’round

Sunshine on my skin

Though rain keeps falling down.

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Music in my ears

When fades away the tune,

Stars in my sky,

When hidden is the moon.

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Sweetness on my lips

Though bitterness may be fed,

Warmth in my bones

Though long the fire dead.

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Fullness in all my wanting

Safety in all my fears

Joy in every sorrow,

With you in all my years.

Year’s End

I’ve been wanting to write about my brother for about a year now, but I couldn’t do it.  It’s still not easy, to be honest.  As a matter of fact, that’s pretty much why I stopped blogging altogether, because I couldn’t write around it.  I couldn’t write about it, and I couldn’t NOT write about it.  So, I took a break, and just let the ground lie fallow.

But, this is okay.  This feels right.

Sometime in the early summer of 2013, it became obvious that he was on shaky ground again.  We tried reaching out to him, but it didn’t stop it.  He began the slow and painful journey back into his addiction.  It broke my heart, ticked me off, scared me to death.  Every emotion was dragged out into the open, whether I wanted it or not.  There were days that it weighed so heavily on me that I couldn’t breathe.  Some days, I handled it okay.  Some days, I handled it all wrong.  But all the feeling… it didn’t stop the reality of what was happening.  Every day was borrowed time– every phone call had the weight of horrible possibility.  We knew it was coming, we just didn’t know what it would be.

He was arrested a few weeks before Christmas of this year.

He was jobless, homeless, still in the process of breaking himself.  Being arrested saved his life.

So, now instead of laying in bed, wondering where he is sleeping, wondering where he is, what he looks like or how he’s getting food, or if he misses us and remembers any of his old life… I know where he is.  I know what he’s eating.  I know what he’s wearing.  And I know he’s thinking about his life.  With four blank walls around you, there’s no escaping your own thoughts.

I couldn’t write about this while it was happening.  I wanted to give him time and space and quiet– but the truth is, this is part of his story.  There’s no way to bury this.  He’s going through this, we’re going through it.  I want the end of this story to be one of triumph and healing.  But there’s no getting there if we pretend there’s nothing to overcome.  No pain to heal from.

I don’t know what happens from here.  I don’t know if this will be the last time, but I sincerely pray that it is. But I ask God for more than that, more than just my brother’s sobriety.  There are hurts in our family that run deep, hurts we don’t want to acknowledge.  Wounds that have healed over poorly, scars that have left us numb, pieces that don’t fit together as well as they should.  We have not been okay.  We have not been okay.  I’m not sure why that’s important to admit, but it is.  At least for me.  If that’s all I said, though, it wouldn’t be worth much.  We haven’t been okay, but God hasn’t left us.  He suffered with us.  He shared our pain, bore our burdens.  He listened when we cried, He dried our tears.  He was patient as we stumbled through anger and resentment and bitterness.  He upheld us when we were our weakest.  We weren’t okay, but we weren’t alone.  Not for a moment of this hard and terrible thing.  We were never alone.  This didn’t kill us.  The sorrow of our earthly troubles didn’t overcome Him.  He didn’t take the pain away, but it did not extinguish His goodness and mercy and His work within us.  What have we to fear, when He holds us so firmly in His Hand?  He is truly master over all.

So there you have it.  We’re in a quiet place now.  A place to catch our breath.  A place to assess our condition, check that we are still intact, still breathing.  And we are.  He has brought us from 2014, into a whole new year full of possibilities.  May we live in 2015, blessing His name in its highs and lows.

Happy New Year, all.

Hello from the Coop

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One of my favorite things about keeping chickens:  the booty beauty.  Fluffy bottoms abound!  They look like feathery pantaloons or skirts, and I just love ’em.  I wish I could teach them the Virginia Reel.

This little pillow of chickeny goodness is my very favorite.  She’s so docile and friendly– she’s the one who would always hop on my shoulder when she was smaller.  Now, she lets me pet her like a dog!  I lerv her.

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Chickens are curious creatures.  Especially if there’s a chance you may have a treat for them.  This girl always cracks me up with the tufts around her face, and the feathers parted neatly around her comb..

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Roosters have scary reputations, I’ll give you that.  And honestly, they do cut quite an imposing figure.  But Nemo is very well behaved.  He is a handsome young fella, and his is constantly on patrol.  It’s fun to watch.  And really, when I look at Nemo now, this is what I remember:

Awww…. He was such a runt back then.  Very bottom of the order, but he’s worked his way up.  He will probably never be the big boss though, Prissy has that firmly in hand.  Speaking of Prissy,
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Hasn’t she turned out pretty?  She is fat and happy and lays lotsa eggs.  Good chicken.  She keeps the flock in line.

 

And this girl, visiting the nesting box.  I’m trying to decide if she’s going broody on me!  She’s been in the nesting box for a gooooood long while today.  She’s already fussed at me once for getting her out.  Broodiness can be bad if you don’t want to hatch chicks.  They may accidentally break eggs, which can then be eaten, and start up a bad habit of egg eating hens!  Also, a broody hen can cause other hens to go broody as well.  They won’t get up to eat or drink, they get all drama queen on you.  So we’ll see.  I’ll check again in a little while.

This shy girl is the smallest, meekest of the chickens.  She’s on the very bottom of the pecking order, which means she has to eat last, take the worst roosting positions, and basically yield whatever to the other chickens.  I do try to sneak her secret bites of food and attention when the others aren’t looking. She’s very timid but I love her sweet expressions and quiet personality.

And lastly, guess what?
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More chicken butt.  🙂

So there ya have it.  A little chicken for your day.